[I have written "blogs" in the past that I haven’t posted for fear of people either asking questions or knowing the situation I was talking about. However, I bit the bullet for this one…]
I had been contemplating the topic of my next blog since I posted the last one. I had thought about this topic for a while, and then after hearing a sermon in church by one great guy, Don, I decided it was definite that I wanted to express my opinion...
According to the internet, there are many types of friendships (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Friendship). However, there was one definition I was quite fond of - "a person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard”. There are simple friends, good friends and great friends! Some friends come and go, others are just people you add on Facebook* because you’ve met them at a friend’s party, others mean the world to you and you would literally die for them! But there are certain friends that leave impressions in your heart that you’ll never forget, no matter what happens.
In my hour of need, I know which friends I can rely on, and which "friends" would just see it as an excuse to gossip or make fun of me. There’s been people in my life who have called themselves friends, but in my hour of need, they were nowhere to be found. Life lessons, like losing my dad for example, have really shown me who my real friends are. Those people most certainly know who they are!
I have friends at university, at church, from school/college, people I just know and friends who are more like family because I have known them for (what feels like) forever! I’m very lucky to be surrounded by such amazing people (friends and family)! But there’s a very small handful of people that I could put into the category of “I would literally die for!”.
Having friends is a great thing and I am so blessed. I can be a very shy, nervous and anxious person and I may only have a small handful of friends, but they’re the best friends a girl could wish for and they love me for being me. But being a friend is just as important as having friends! Friendship is most definitely a two-way thing!
I found this quote online that really spoke to me:
“I do not want to be the kind of friend who only calls you with a new request. I want to be a friend you can depend on, one who’ll help you be and feel your best. I want your love and trust to be deserved; I want your compliments to be the truth; I want your health and happiness preserved; I want to look back later at our youth and feel all warm and fuzzy thinking of the friendship we have shared however long, and know that I’ve done justice to the one who loved me; You kept me right when so much else was wrong. So, please, if there is anything you need, don’t hesitate to ask as much of me.”
Wow. Doesn’t that speak volumes?
When I heard Don preach, he covered 4 key aspects of friendships:
- Self Disclosure - Confiding in others whatever you wish to tell, 2. Connection - sharing a connection through mutual agreements, 3. Dialogue - again, two ways: speaking AND listening, 4. Loyalty - or, in other words, faithful; which is probably the most important!
Friendships can get very complicated, for many different reasons! I’ve had friendships that have gotten complicated… for the good and the bad, some have been resolved but others fizzled out. But I hope that those ‘friendships’ can always be remembered.
Food for thought: Think to yourself, are you the best friend you can be? Do you ask “are you okay?” and allow them to be honest? Do you spot the painted on smile when they really want to break down? Do you respect others privacy when they ask you to be their counsellor? Do you give them the time, attention and affection they deserve and even want? Are you there in their time of need, no matter what the time of day? Are you the shoulder they need to cry on? Are you a true friend?
I know I have offered people this, tried to be the best friend I can be, and they’ve just thrown it in my face. But does that mean you should give up? No, I believe you should never give up on the people you love!
One last quote for you: “Never ignore a person who loves and cares for you, because one day you may realise that you’ve lost the moon whilst counting the stars”.
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